Law of the Seed

Someone send me this:

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Take a look at an apple tree. There might be five hundred apples on the tree and each apple has ten seeds. That's a lot of seeds! We might ask, "Why would you need so many seeds to grow just a few more apple trees?"

Nature has something to teach us here. It's telling us: "Not all seeds grow. In life, most seeds never grow". So if you really want to make something happen, you had better try more than once." This might mean: You'll attend twenty interviews to get one job. You'll interview forty people to find one good employee. And you might meet a hundred acquaintances just to find one special friend.

When we understand the "Law of the Seed", we don't get so disappointed. We stop feeling like victims. We learn how to deal with things that happen to us. Laws of nature are not things to take personally. We just need to understand them - and work with them.

IN A NUTSHELL

Successful people fail more often. But they plant more seeds.

When things are beyond your control, here's something that you must NOT DO so as to avoid misery in your life:

- You must not decide how you think the world SHOULD be.

- You must not make rules for how everyone SHOULD behave.

- Then, when the world doesn't obey your rules, you get angry! - That's what miserable people do!

On the other hand, let's say you expect that:

-Friends SHOULD return favours.

-People SHOULD appreciate you.

-Planes SHOULD arrive on time.

-Everyone SHOULD be honest.

-Your husband or best friend SHOULD remember your birthday.

These expectations may sound reasonable. But often, these things won't happen! So you end up frustrated and disappointed.

There's a better strategy:

Demand less, and instead, have preferences!

For things that are beyond your control, tell yourself: "

I would prefer this, but if that happens, it's OK too!"

This is really a change in mindset. It is a shift in attitude, and it gives you more peace of mind ...

You prefer that people are polite ... but when they are rude, it doesn't ruin your day.

You prefer sunshine ... but if it rains, it is ok too!

To become happier, we either need to:

a) Change the world, or

b) Change our thinking.

It is easier to change our Thinking!

IN A NUTSHELL

It is not the problem that is the issue, but rather it is your attitude attending to the problem that is the problem. It's not what happens to you that determines your happiness. It's how you think about what happens to you!

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In a nutshell, there's so many to think about what has happened to me especially for the past 10 years. A friend once told me that I have 'attitude', to me... to hell with him, because after 13 years, I suddenly wonder, whether I really have an 'attitude' or was it him who has the 'attitude' since he finally told me that he has been pretending to be nice to me.. then, in the first place, he's not a friend at all.

In another occasion, or rather a friendship, a friend should be just a friend. There are no rules or regulations on what friendship should be. Two friends, might end up married, divorced and at the end realised that they might better off be 'JUST FRIENDS'.

I recently told a friend of mine that I got so fed up with his excuses of "Sorry" for not being able to attend certain occasions due to this or that reason. Is it wrong for me to voice out how I felt? or should i just keep quiet because what the "Law of Seeds" said that we must learn to deal with things that had happend to us, and we must need to understand them and work with them...??

Well, I personally feel that 'The Law of Seed" is true to certain extend, but as the rule of law, there is always exceptions to the general rule, and most of the time, the exception is the 'General Rule' which is accepted by the general.

With that, I rest my case....